Solemnization
I did not believe myself when I wrote this entry, who knows that someday I’ll be this old to write about this, well years before, my friends and I used to dreams of a perfect wedding. They are certain things that we discussed, the theme, the colors, what the bridesmaids would will wears, location and so on. There is a friend who wanted to have her wedding in garden surrounded by sakura. Dream and dream. It was years before, the reality is now am watching my sister attending their colleague's wedding here and there and now i am going to attend my friend’s wedding, not just one, but two and there will be a lot of them soon, my uni mates as well as schoolmates, how do I measure the perfect time to get married?
wedding is such a happy occasion that people look forward to however,
What we did not think is, are we ready to carry the duty as a wife? Is he the one? I know, too many ifs would not bring me, you or anyone anywhere. Life is a risk kan?
Well what happen if, once you get married, you realize that you are not ready? To do all house chores that your mom used to do it for you and too bad some of your habits / bad atts hardly understand by your husband. Recently, there are numbers of vids posted by young adults which I assume as in the early twenties about their engagement and solemnization ceremony. I have to admit, I am scared to commit to such a serious business like that because I have so many thoughts and too many ifs.
One thing that I fear the most is the most cliché wedding vow things we used to hear, “To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us”. Do we really ready to do all of these things with our partner?
It is easier when it doesn’t involves anyone else, I mean, the divorce is only between the man and the woman but what makes it hard is when the divorce happen between a father and a mother, where they have kids together and families all around them. “Whatever happens, we will still love you”, I don’t know how it works.
People might assume as I might undergo the situation where my parents are divorce which is actually not true, I was born in a strong family bound and we are close. Alhamdulillah for that. J
For me, marriage is not when you have enough money to Pinang or to organize a fancy wedding but, when you are confident you can carry and put up with the heat and tense which I think am not.
Perkahwinan itu mudah, mengikut islam, tak perlu berhabis berjuta-juta, hantaran mega (terpulang kepada kemampuan & keinginan individu) bukan itu yang dikisahkan,hanya memenuhi syarat yg utama, wali dan saksi, tetapi mampu ke tidak seorang lelaki dan seorang perempuan bersama berpuluh tahun bukannya sehari dua go tru the hardness, instability dan semua sekali sebagai satu team.
So marriage at a young age could not be a problem if you are able to handle stresses and pain, (im not saying that marriage is all about sadness, but being happy in a marriage wasn’t an issue here). So if those kids out there wanted to get married and they are capable to face anything, why should we stop them, but ifthey are easily pissed due to the simple reason such as their parents did not allow them to lepak, or maybe fail in a subject tell me how you are going to handle the flame?
Here are the stats and other info.
